Series III: Wedding Etiquette For Every Type of Wedding Guest By: Elite Events Planner, Kati Kerekes

At every wedding there are “Bad Guests”. These people have to be tracked down by the parents of the bride for their RSVP's, they ask to bring a date or children even though they were not invited. Some of them choose to not purchase items off the gift registry because they want to be different. Others RSVP for one type of food then request a different one at the meal. Then there are the ladies who decide to wear white or not wear enough clothes at all and the gentleman who show up to a black tie event in khakis and a polo. Whether you are the person who had a little too much to drink or included your new date in the family group photo session at some point every one of us has made a mistake as a guest.
Want to change your ways? From start to finish here are some tips on how to be the best guest!
Once you receive a Save The Date, check your calendar and immediately let the couple know if you can’t make it. They probably have an A, B and C list and will be able to invite others in your place. On the same note, if you know you can make it, let them know you received the information and are excited to attend. When the formal invitation comes, reply promptly & do not add more guests to the response than have been invited. If it is not clear if you can bring a date or your children, it is OK to ask. Remember understanding who is invited and asking to invite more people are two different things and the latter of the two will make the couple uncomfortable. Want to be a super nice guest? RSVP online. This saves tons of time for the couple!
If you are traveling from out of town, book your travel arrangements ASAP. Hotels will book up & you might miss out on the group discounted rate. If information has not been provided on transportation, it is safe to assume you are to make arrangements on your own.
Unless you and the entire wedding party are surprising them with a brand new car, buy off the registry or just give money. Period. The couple took the time to figure out what they wanted so don't be rude and snub their suggestions. If you can’t find anything you would like to give, then a lovely card with money is always safe and super easy to put in your clutch purse!
Know your venue & dress appropriately. If you are not sure what to wear save humiliation and ask someone else attending. You do not want to wear heels in the grass, forget your suit jacket or upstage the bride.
Treat the ceremony the same way you would treat a movie or live theater. Arrive at least 15 minutes early, turn your cell phone off & use the restroom before it starts. Some ceremonies may run long, a little bottle of water may keep you from passing out during a hot August afternoon. If you have a child who might get fussy sit closest to the door so you can quickly and quietly escape before their screams block out the couples’ vows. If you are late don’t try walking down the isle, simply stand in the back or slip in from the side.
During cocktail hour enjoy the snacks, but do not hover over the smoked salmon and devour all the mini crab cakes. If you absolutely need seconds and thirds do it at the cheese and cracker station where left overs are common. Remember you are not the only guest at the party. When you see the Bride and Groom congratulate them, take a photo, then let them visit with other guests. It is not the time to bring up your sister’s dead cat.
During the reception, remember the 3 D's: Dance often, Drink water & have a Designated Driver!


Series II: Wedding Etiquette For The Bridal Party By: Elite Events Planner, Kati Kerekes

You may not know it, but you are an important part of someone you know or may not knows wedding dreams. Whether your a member of a wedding party or just the date of a guest, you have attended a wedding and will more than likely attend one again. Some of you may dread this, while others anticipate the party. No matter which type of guest you are, and whether its your 1st wedding or your 15th, chances are wedding etiquette isn't your fort-ay. In-fact, until your the one getting married most do not realize the wedding fauex pa's their committing.

As a wedding planner & Bride to be the error in my wedding guest past is haunting me like an ugly bridesmaids dress. In an attempt to change my etiquette karma I have created a series of wedding guidelines for everyone from the mother of the bride to the blind date sitting at table 7.

Do you have a nightmare wedding etiquette story? Share it with us, by commenting below!

Warmest Regards,

Kati xox

Series II Bridal Party Do's & Dont's

Its an honor to be asked to be a member of the Bride & Grooms inner circle. Besides making some great memories along the way, your commitment can also become expensive, time consuming & sometimes stressful. Here are some guidelines for the future bridesmaids & groomsmen of the world that will keep the Bride & Groom happy & yourself sane.

Know What You Are Signing Up For:

Remember, every wedding is different, each family has there own set of traditions, ideas, & budget. You could be agreeing to take part in something you can not afford or have the time to commit to. Since weddings are an emotionally driven event communication is the key to not ruining your relationship with the couple during the process.

Ask what will be expected of you, how much things will cost & what role you will be playing through out the entire process. Let them know how happy and excited you are and be clear on what you feel comfortable spending. The Bride & Groom will respect you for asking the important questions and may be willing to make some compromises should you not be able to afford or attend every wedding event. Should you find yourself declining the invitation be aware that it may cause some hurt at first but it will be much better then not meeting expectations and feeling stressed down the road.

Be Supportive, Not Opinionated and if You Must, LIE

Imagine the cheerleaders at your high school wearing itchy ugly uniforms, standing in the rain, jumping, screaming, kicking, while holding the biggest smiles for a team that might not even win. Embrace the notion that a bridal party member is like a cheerleader, you must believe in your couple and love them enough to not care what you are wearing or what the weathers like, you must focus on the big day and how your support will make it a success. The Bride and Groom will drive you crazy at times, over whelm you with questions and ideas about their big day, and ask you for your thoughts on everything from dress, decor, to party location and color scheme. No matter how strange or disagreeable you find it, even constructive criticism should always be positive.

Party Etiquette :

Bridesmaids: Find out if there will be an engagement party, shower, bachelorette party and who will be hosting them. Sometimes these responsibilities will fall on you. Be up front on what you can contribute and open to suggestions from the family. Share your contact information with everyone in the wedding party and be prepared to spend some time and money on all of these things.
Groomsmen: Be helpful with party planning needs, find out who the maid of honor is and return her emails & phone calls. She might be cute, but now is not the time to try to hit on her or any of the bridesmaids for that matter. Remember, the reception will have the ladies looking their best and most likely wanting to slow dance, so try to stay cute and mysterious until then.

Everyone: Talk to your Bride/Groom about what they want for their bachelor/bachelorette party and pre-wedding events. Do not do anything they are not comfortable with and no matter how black out drunk they get, do not allow them to do something they will regret. The day of the wedding remember they may get cold feet and although you swore to never get married it is your job to make sure they do. Stay sober enough to give a toast that will roast the groom, flatter the bride and make everyone laugh and cry, then go find that bridesmaid or groomsmen you have been eying and celebrate the evening!

Series III The Wedding Guest 1/20/11


Wedding Etiquette & Guidlines Series From Elite Event Planner Kati Kerekes

You may not know it, but you are an important part of someone you know or may not knows wedding dreams. Whether your a member of a wedding party or just the date of a guest, you have attended a wedding and will more than likely attend one again. Some of you may dread this, while others anticipate the party. No matter which type of guest you are, and whether its your 1st wedding or your 15th, chances are wedding etiquette isn't your fort-ay. In-fact, until your the one getting married most do not realize the wedding fauex pa's their committing.

As a wedding planner & Bride to be the error in my wedding guest past is haunting me like an ugly bridesmaids dress. In an attempt to change my etiquette karma I have created a series of wedding guidelines for everyone from the mother of the bride to the blind date sitting at table 7.

Do you have a nightmare wedding etiquette story? Share it with us, by commenting below!

Warmest Regards,

Kati xox

Part 1: Parents, Family & Close Friends

This is a special day for you, but it's NOT your special day. Whether you are footing the bills, helping with plans or just there for support here are some tips to make sure the process is smooth & the event is as special as everyone wants it to be.

How to share the Big News & Wedding Details with Friends & Family:
I know you are excited that your loved one is getting married, but that doesn't mean you should tell everyone about the engagement. Make sure you have a conversation with the couple on what information is OK to be divulged and to whom. The couple may want to tell certain people face to face. Do not steal their thunder by announcing on facebook before they had a chance to tell the other side of the family!
Even though its hard, try to keep the plans hush hush until the guest list has been hammered out between everyone involved. Some people may automatically assume that your conversation about “what the dress looks like, or where the event will be” means they are invited.

As the plans are finalized be careful not to tell guests too many details about the event. The couple has worked hard to create a unique experience for guests, so do not give the fun away or allow for your ideas to be stolen. Also by divulging information you open yourself up to the opinions of others, which might spoil the excitement if its not received well.

How to be Helpful and Not Harmful:
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. This is not the time or the place to voice your anger towards other guests at the wedding. Chances are everyone already knows how you feel anyways. Instead politely request that you be seated on the other side of the room from those you can not be around. If you have to vent about anything or anyone related to the wedding do it far far far away from the couple and anyone else you want to enjoy the celebration. Remember letting the negatives bother you only keeps you and those around you from enjoying the positives.

Take a Step Back: If the Bride or Groom is stressed your first instincts might be to help, but what if you are the one causing the stress? Over the years I have witnessed countless Momzilla's & wedding party members giving their opinions and taking charge, oblivious to the fact that the Bride and Groom are ready to strangle them. Caught up in the moment you may make decisions based on what you think or what you would want. Before you jump the gun and do something that could cause harm, stop and think “How would they like this to be done, and what can I do to make things better for them?” Then ask! If they are smart enough to choose a partner in life they are smart enough to know how your help is needed most.

Do Not Get In Over Your Head: If you know that you do not have the time to hand write every address on envelopes do not agree to it. No matter how badly you want to make the couple happy, it will only end in disaster. Instead, come up with helpful solutions like hiring a calligrapher or printing labels. You may have to be the bad guy at first, but at least it wont blow up in your face later.

If you do decide to help with a project, RESPECT DEADLINES! Guests are going to be late responding to everything, they probably wont purchase gifts off the registry and a few will even try to bring guests that are not invited to the event. Do not be one of those annoying guests. If the couple asks something of you and you give your word, do it in a timely fashion and with respect to the guidelines you were given. If they have to ask you several times if something was taken care of, they might as well have done it themselves. You would never act like that to your co-workers or your boss so just because it's them doesn't make it OK.

How to Enjoy the Event: Having to set up a wedding and tear it down is exhausting. Keeping track of all the vendors while trying not to miss a second of the special moments is impossible. Consider hiring a wedding coordinator or find out if your location offers one. By removing the work from the wedding day you can relax and stay positive, which is how the couple will want you to be.

Dance Even If You Hate It: Guests will follow your lead and you can sit once the floor is packed!

Be the Last Guests to Leave: Make sure the bills were paid, the gifts are all packed up and the guests got home alright. It also allows you to savor the last moments of the day. I envision Steve Martin in Father of the Bride sitting alone with the last champagne, confetti in his hair, reflecting on the day and everything that made it happen, and if my memory suites me, after he recalls all the meltdowns and chaos he remembers how beautiful his wife looked and how happy his daughter was, and at the end he sheds a few tears then smiles proudly.

Series II Wedding Party Guidelines coming out Wednesday 1.19.11


Bridal Show Details

This is my first time blogging from my phone so bare with me please.

First and foremost we would like to thank eveyone who braved the cold and came to visit our booth at the Sounds of Music Bridal Show this past weekend. Kati and Meg had a great time speaking with all of you and said they had a great turn out.

We would also like the vendors who assisted me (Nikki) in making my creative vision a reality. Thank you to the following vendors:

Beautiful Blooms by Jen
Janes Cakes
Chavarri Wedding Chairs
Rent the Runway

The linens were custom made by our very own Stacy Bierbaum. Feel free to check out her new etsy site

Concept Design, place settings,and stationary design provided by Elite Events.

Thanks Meg for the images!

We look forward to assisting you make your next event an elite event.
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Happy Matrimony Monday, one and all! To kick off the new year (and celebrate the biggest day in wedding planning), we're thrilled to unveil our top 10 wedding trends for 2011!

OneWed’s Top 10 Wedding Trends for 2011:

1. Sophisticated Elegance Returns
It's back to basics with elegant, sophisticated style in 2011. Wedding decor will be simple and understated, with modern design elements trumping DIY touches. Scripted calligraphy, custom monograms, and classic wedding cakes embody this trend. Brides will wear pearls, and grooms will ditch the Converse in favor of more tasteful wedding day kicks.

2. Outdoor Venues- Where It’s At
Couples tying the knot in 2011 will gravitate toward outdoor ceremony and reception venues. The raw, minimal backdrop of an outdoor setting leaves room for personalization and customization, a major perk for creative, hands-on nearlyweds. Lakeside venues, vineyard locations and spaces situated alongside sprawling mountains will dominate, and they’ll be spruced up with personalized touches that represent the bride and groom. You'll find some serious outdoor weddings inspiration in our real weddings blog category!

3. Grey is the New Black, Crazy for Navy
Gloomy no more, grey is the neutral IT color for 2011 weddings. Organic and natural, shades of charcoal, dove, stone, oyster and shell will be incorporated liberally into wedding color palettes and paired with vibrant hues to make the colors pop! And while grey remains the talk of the town for 2011, navy blue (and other deep blues) are definitely on-trend for the coming year. Wonder if Prince Will's royal wedding has anything to do with the crazy for navy trend... what do you think??

4. Mad for Metallics & Bold Color Palettes
Whether it’s two bright hues with a metallic accent, or several metallic shades used together, brights and metallics will be popular choices for wedding color palettes in 2011. Gilded gold, shimmery silver, and sparkling champagne will used alone or with accents of yellow, purple or teal. And since metallics make such a bold statement on their own, couples will scale back over-the-top decor in favor of a more restrained style aesthetic.

5. Big Ball Gowns are Back
Dramatic ball gown wedding dresses floated down 2011 bridal catwalks in droves. Wedding dress designers draped, ruched, and layered clouds of tulle, power netting, and chiffon to fashion wedding dresses with limitless volume. The outcome? Fairytale-inspired bridal style and whimsical wedding dresses for 2011 I Dos.

6. Grooms Take a Walk on the Stylish Side
Grooms are taking a stand in the name of fashion. Their tux choices will no longer be dictated by some “rent 5, get 1 free” deal. Instead, they’ll chose formal looks that represent their unique style. Bow ties will replace classic long neck ties, and embroidered dress shirts, engraved cufflinks, stylish lapel pins and the color of the season- grey- will grace the white aisles.

7. Wedding Invitations Go Green
The green weddings movement continues full speed ahead in 2011. From totally paperless wedding invitations and save-the-dates, to stationery printed on 100% recycled paper, invitations have truly gone green. Couples can find all they need with sites like WeddingPreParty (enabling online RSVP and party planning) and Nearlyweds.com (offering coordinating stationery and wedding websites).

8. Luxurious Textures-- from the Dress to the Tablescape
Luxe textured fabrics will bring a sumptuous, opulent vibe to 2011 weddings. Wedding dresses will feature 3D applique, layered light fabrics (tulle, lace, chiffon), romantic ruffles, oversized florals, and illusion fabric with eye-catching beading. Textured linens will be layered to dress up reception tables, chair covers may be embroidered or beaded, and branchy centerpieces and floral arrangements will captivate wedding guests.

9. Ethnic Influences, Cultural Wedding Details
At long last, brides and grooms are embracing and showcasing their unique cultural traditions and ethnicity. Whether it’s a religious wedding ceremony ritual, traditional wedding day garb, cultural cuisine infused throughout the reception dinner, or wedding decor with bold, ethnic prints, you can’t help but embrace the unique cultures and ethnicities of couples in 2011.

10. Revved-Up Wedding Receptions
Who wants the best day of their lives to end? Not couples and guests in 2011, that’s for sure! Couples will plan a post-reception after party lasting into the wee hours of the night with drinks, entertainment, dancing, and snacks so that wedding guests can party all night long!

Now that you've read our predictions for the top 10 trends for 2011 weddings, share your thoughts! What do you love, what would you leave, and what did we miss? Post a comment below, or post on our Facebook page!

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The In's and Out's of Place Settings

With all of the celebrating that has been going on, I thought this was an appropriate topic to post about. I hope you will find this information useful in any event that you may be setting a table for: Dinner party, Engagement party, Christmas party, new years party, dinner with friends, wedding, whatever you feel like celebrating! Of course most of us will never set the table at our receptions, but it’s important to know the difference between the formal and informal place settings for event. Your table setting should continue to reflect your theme and formality to ensure a consistent and beautiful event.

Now this is a fairly basic way to set a table. Depending on what part of the world you are in it can vary. Place settings are a great way to personalize your tablescape, even when following the “rules.”

  • A informal meal offers a chance to relax and have a little fun, so all you’ll need is the basics. Take the opportunity to show a bit of personality by mixing and matching textures, patterns, and colors. This table features a patterned salad plate on top of a contrasting dinner plate. A charger isn’t required for such a casual setting.
  • The flatware aligns more or less with the bottom of the dinner plate.
  • No matter the occasion, make sure the knife’s blade points toward the plate. “It’s impolite to allow blades to face other diners,” says Anna Post, great-great-granddaughter of etiquette expert Emily Post and the author of Emily Post’s Wedding Parties
  • Feel free to use tumblers in place of wineglasses. It’s OK for stemmed and stemless glasses to coexist.
  • Place salt-and-pepper shakers near the center of the table. If someone asks you to pass the salt, hand her the pepper, too. The pair should always travel together.

  • A formal setting isn’t meant to be overcomplicated or just plain pretty, The order of everything on the table is logical.
  • A charger, or presentation plate , holds a spot for the dinner plate and should be removed after the salad course. In all but the most formal settings, you can forgo chargers, but etiquette sticklers swear by them, insisting guests should never walk up to a bare table.
  • All flatware should be evenly spaced, about a half inch apart.
  • People typically reach for water more often than wine, so the water goblet goes above the knife tip, with wineglasses (red above white) to the right.
  • If space allows, place the napkin to the far left, so as not to disturb the flatware.

Those are the basics, but as I mentioned before, you can get creative in the styling and presentations of each item! Cloth napkins are a must for a few reasons.

1. They look so much more elegant than paper,

2. they are environmentally friendly, and of course

3. they can be folded in many ways to dress up the appearance of the table.

If you have simple plates, one way to jazz it up is with colorful napkins and napkin rings. You could use vintage jewelry to make your napkins look simply elegant. I just love these images I found at Leslie Arna‘s blog site.

Ribbons, twine, broaches, bracelets, flowers and feathers make great napkin holders, you just need to be resourceful and scavenge for the perfect item!

Place mats, chargers, and table runners can also add some drama to your table scape. A pretty table runner as shown above can serve as both decoration and place mats.

For a little French-bistro flair, turn a colorful dish towel into a shared place mat.

Here are some less formal yet fairly fun place settings!

A whiteboard makes a clever charger/place card not to mention the perfet recepticle for dinnertime doodling :) love that the silverware is tied together with bells, what great detail.This would be great for a child's party!Even a casual setting can have a hint of drama, here supplied by geometric patterned salad plates

Don't be afraid to get playful with seating arrangements by using alphabet magnets to mark each guest’s spot.


It is all about the details. A little goes a long way :) here are a some of our favorites :)

Place Cards: Refreshingly different place cards for summertime entertainment: personalized flags anchored in zesty limes.

Make place cards that are favors too, like this one using an inexpensive seed packet. Great for a luncheon with the girls in your garden!

Surprise guests with small treats that act as both placeholders and favors.

Why not utilize what is already available. A fork makes a great Place card holder!

Menus: Awning-striped “menus” add a bright, summery note.

Ideal for windy outdoor dining, printed rubber bands prettily secure napkins and silverware to plates.

Keep in mind Simple variations on a color are an easy way to pull together any table!